In a world dominated by extroverts, introverts find it hard to fit in. They are more sensitive, thoughtful, and quiet than their outgoing counterparts.
In addition to preferring isolation, introverts also engage in introspection and profound thought. Which most people interpret as timidity or even social awkwardness.
Introverts can also become entirely overwhelmed by minor issues that don’t bother other individuals. They have profound emotional attachments to certain issues.
Because of this, many difficult issues come with being an introvert.
Listed below are the top ten problems that most introverts may identify with. To know how to overcome introvertedness, you can check out my next post by clicking here.
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1. Not Having a True Friend
Some introverts appear very friendly and easily make friends with everyone, but that is all there is to it. They don’t have a “true” friend that they can fully trust, and no one can express their feelings to them either.
They are happy when someone opens up to them, but somehow they just can’t open up because they have been hurt too much. They are sad when they feel left out because they are nobody’s best friend. In a group, they would always be the last pick and would be grateful to those who remembered them.
In a trio, there will always be someone who feels left out, and that is the introvert. There would always be two best friends in a trio who would share their plans and secrets, but what about the introverted one? Nothing; he or she is left with no choice but to understand the situation because they are neither the first choice nor the best friend.
2. Building Deep Relationships Can Be Difficult
Building deep relationships is what most introverts have difficulty with. They have a hard time reaching out to people and thinking about what kind of conversations they should have. Therefore they lose the chance to get to know a person and hear their stories.
Most of the time, introverts want it the easy way; they want people to reach out to them. But what if they don’t? Well, their shyness won’t let them reach out unless they are desperate to do so. Introverts too want to have a deep relationship with others; they don’t always want to be alone, and they want to have at least someone they know they can lean on.
3. Introverts Are Sometimes Forgotten
In a world where extroverts always get the spotlight on every occasion, there is an introvert who is always blending in with the crowd, waiting for someone to at least talk to them. To not make them feel awkward and alone.
For introverts, going outside their comfort zone is not an easy thing to do. They are usually the quiet ones and the ones who are easily forgotten by people. For them, approaching people is hard, especially when they feel like they can’t relate.
So at least, if ever you see a person who feels awkward on an occasion, don’t just ignore them. Try to get to know them more and include them in the conversation.
4. Assumptions of Other People
Introverts can be quite different compared to the rest, and because of this, people make assumptions that they are not confident or that they could be hiding something. Especially in job interviews, where employers always base decisions on first impressions.
5. Avoiding Social Gatherings
Social gatherings involve a lot of small talk that makes introverts feel like there is a wall separating people. Which might drastically restrict introverted alternatives for socializing and make you feel like the odd one out, particularly throughout your college years or in your twenties.
6. Feeling Underappreciated
Introverts usually don’t talk as much as others; they are sensitive and prefer listening, and they usually don’t know what to say or have anything to say. However, not talking as much can make other people ignore them by not including them in hangouts and by just making them feel invincible.
Additionally, in the workplace, those who have social skills always get promoted, and even if introverts have the necessary skills for that job, other people will still get it. Making introverts feel underappreciated.
7. Group Work is Burdensome
Introverts find it easier to work alone than in a group. They are more creative and productive working alone than in a group, which makes them feel stressed out.
I could relate to this, especially when I was in college. I dreaded working on group projects, especially if I knew that my groupmates were such freeloaders. Waiting and reminding people to do their work only for them to deliver such low-quality work truly stressed me out.
But I was left with no choice but to do my best, even if others were not doing the same, because I understood that if I just left the problem, then I would be affected too. Lately, I’ve been working on myself, and group projects aren’t so bad anymore.
Just a tip: if you are still in school and the professor allows you to choose your groupmates, be smart and choose the ones who are intelligent or at least responsible. It’s not always wise to choose your friends as groupmates, especially if you know that they are not responsible.
Remember that choosing groupmates is not all about having fun with them; it’s about being professional by always doing your best to contribute to giving a high-quality output.
8. Being the Center of Attention is Uncomfortable
It’s normal to feel uncomfortable when you’re being watched by a lot of people, but to an introvert, just imagining or preparing to talk in front of a lot of people feels like having a life crisis. For them, being the center of attention is too much pressure, so they avoid it at all costs.
9. Overthinking
Many times, introverts think too much. They overthink even the smallest details, which is mentally draining. Particularly if they feel the other person wasn’t being honest with them or is angry with them, details like the change in the other person’s tone of voice and word choice could cause them to replay the situation and start an agonizing over-analysis.
10. Having a Hard Time Committing to Plans
Committing to plans is another issue that affects introverts. They prefer alone time over any other type of social connection. They prefer plans made at the last minute, where there is little to no time to cancel.
Many people may misunderstand them for canceling plans, but sometimes introverts can feel heavy or burdened when they commit to plans on which someone else depends. Making them overthink and cancel at the last minute.
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